#and more specifically non-binary trans ppl..

[jrwiyuri]

My teacher said I should try making some of the symbolism in my art less obvious but like.. idk how? Or how that would benefit it?

[trickerycleric]

i'm curious, so trans people/people who have changed your name

+ in the tags specify if you purposefully chose a name shorter/longer than your birthname

[creatingblackcharacters]

hey there! so, im making a character who's Black, anddd i need help with them. badly so.

(sorry in advance bc this character isnt That developed or at least not as much as other OCs i have)

alright, they're an afab teen under the non-binary umbrella (im not sure on what gender i should give them). they're in a friend group with two other teens, one of whom found out she's trans, and that made them go like "wait maybe im not cis". they live in an extremely conservative christian town, and they're one of the few black kids there (it's an awful place to live, i make that very clear), which makes it so that they're not very connected with LGBTQ not POC communities - which is why their friend was the one who introduced queerness to them. they're the quietest of their friend group, quite autism coded but i dont think I'll really specify it, and they're a pretty normal kid all things considered (a bit of a self-insert personality wise lol)

when i first thought this character's gender arc, as the story will be very visual (animatics probably), i thought of them experimenting with gender by trying on their older brother's clothes. seeing they like how it looks, they decide to pick up a pack of scissors and cut their hair themself.

now, i remembered "oh fuck, POC usually don't like to have their hair messed with do they?" (i have read a bunch of posts abt that so im 99% certain lol-), then noticed how white the whole arc looks (i need more contact with POC i live in White Hell i have no other reference ;;), and that kinda discouraged me from writing them to the point i almost scrapped the whole character arc and even the concept- which is also why they're not as developed as they should be.

now, the actual question! how to write their transition arc, while also remaining respectful and realistic? also, have you noticed anything in this ask that's kinda fucked up, and how can i fix it if so? im doing my best to represent many groups of ppl with my OCs and i want to be accurate sorry if this ask is very long ;;

thank you so much for answering, and thank you for this blog!! you're very cool :)

So first, I deeply want to apologize for how late I am on answering this. I didn't want to answer without being informed, but I also know how much you want advice.

First, if this character is Black, say "Black" not "POC". Even in your head, start making that decision to be specific every time. We have a specific identity, we are not every man, and it's annoying to be referred to so generally when we have an identity.

For the hair part, check out this lesson. If your character decided to cut their hair off themselves, then it's not exactly an issue- it's their hair! It'd be different if it was someone they didn't know and trust touching their hair. You may feel free to refer to my entire syllabus if you want to do the reading to see if there's anything else you may have missed!

As for your question on their transition, this is the part that I was wavering on answering, because I'm currently doing the reading myself for a lesson I'm writing. So at the moment, all I can really say is to read narratives about and by Black trans people, and what that meant for them! That's a cool list I just found, I'm gonna save it for later as a reference.

It's not going to be received the same way as a white person transitioning, no; perception of gender identity and expression are going to be different depending on who's looking. For example, what does 'Black androgyny' look like to white people if they already believe that we have 'masculine' features? Thus the existence of the term 'stud'. Or how long hair is deemed feminine, but there are plenty of Black and Indigenous people whose hair growth is essential to their identity and has nothing to do with "making them girly".

I think what I plan on getting into more detail on in my lesson- and what you'll need to understand- is that following or even subverting gender "norms" is dependent upon what those cultural norms are, and how they might conflict at times. So to write a respectful narrative, you're going to have to understand what it means to live at that intersection. I hope this all made sense 😅 this is why I'm not confident in that lesson yet.

[fakesorbet]

bad kid design , set in between junior and senior yr

hc below because !! I have so many

Fabian: he/she bi !! Fabian is absolutely a transman . Most trans coded character, and I think he Identifies as just a man. But, I think once she finally reconciles / comes to term with hallariel and all the faults she has, I think he’d explore femininity after years of avoiding it. I think hed’d change their hair regularly , because typically keeps it in long dreads . only the bad kids , jawbones, and Mazey can use she her for him no one else knows abt it . very unrelated but I think fabian has like, 2 veneers. Being a child of dangerous parents and being around violence as a kid let a physical reminder

Riz: no prns/ he . gonna be so fr i dont think riz would care abt gender and sexuality labels, like yea if ppl ask he’ll say aroace nby but he also . does not care. It’s hard to tell and I wanna make a whole post but a lot of Riz’s tattoos are based of physics / math equations . Because im a nerd and rip riz u would’ve loved calculus and relativity . also i do not believe in any qpr riz , thats not riz’s vibe . Lastly, I think because of genes and dental being so damn expensive his teeth are crooked and stained . also autistic.

Fig: she/any. I think she should look weirder. I want to make her look weirder but For now this is how i imagine her :] the face tattoo is meant to be representative of cultural wood elves tattoos [ if they had any ] because fig and sandra lynn story remind me So much of what it’s like to be related to ur mom and yet not culturally feel related. as in, Sandra lynn is an elf, and fig is a tiefling, and had fig stayed an elf how she grew up would be vastly different. Anywayz i think fig would get face tattoos to match her mom, ik Sandra lynn doesnt canonically have face tattoos but in my mind she does. The facial tattoos is Absolutely inspired by swana facial tattoos, more specifically Iraq because i love projection :] I also think she’d get other more non cultural tattoos once she drops it.

Adaine: she/her demi aroace . i truthfully dont have that many hcs for her . I Gen think everything going on with her works so well so I don’t have that many thoughts 💔 also autistic

Kristen: they/she . non-binary butch . Gives them a little forehead kiss . The amount of damage and crazy shit she been through she absolutely uses her staff as a cane and is missing fingers and an organ . She has trouble breathing because u know . Stabbed through the chest Twice . probably more than I remember . In my heart she and tracker reconcile and get back together , also Adhd

Gorgug: any [ no they ] tfem !!!! I think after junior yr she and Fabian explore their gender and Gorgug realizes he also doesn’t care abt gender but also does prefer femininity . Fabian is more gender neutral / androgynous in how he represents himself Gorgug tends to be more ‘ normative ‘ in whatever gender he wants to present that day . She does present more typically feminine but unfortunately long skirts and working with flammable is Not work place safe . Also at some point in junior yr he blows his ear out and wears implants, he learns sign and so does his friends and family . 3rd autistic member of the bad kids .

I have other hcs but theyre a bit more personal but also . God please ask me abt my hcs abt any character or specifics !!!!

[depresssant]

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[velvetvexations]

I feel like a lot of the trans women saying that masculinity/manhood is always rewarded in everyone because patriarchy often forget that the opposite is true, actually, for people who are seen as women/put in the "woman" category.

Because yes, trans women are usually forced into manhood and "rewarded" for being men, and punished for being women. But that's not because manhood is universally rewarded in everyone, but because partriarchy sees having been born with a penis as "man".

It also sees being born with a vagina as "woman", and every deviation from that is *also* punished.

Yes, people who are seen as women/girls may have more freedom in expression of gender (depending on where they are from. I hate when ppl act like people afab everywhere can just dress like men without punishment. There are so many countries with laws on what "women" (and those treated as women because of their agab) can wear, and if anyone believes for one second that breaking these laws is REWARDED in any way, they're so fucking deep in their own head and need to talk to someone from these countries) but that freedom was fought for by feminists! Feminists have fought to be simply just allowed to wear pants. It's ridiculous to look at how it is now (in the western world) and make conclusions on that without looking at *why* it is that way now and how it was before.

And people are usually expected to grow out of their tomboy-"phase" by the time they reach their late teens, or early twenties at latest, and become a feminine woman, wife, and mother. If you don't do that, your masculinity gets punished.

And the masculinity of people afab is also only (begrudgingly) accepted (in SOME places in the world) as long as they're still visible as women or girls and their masculinity is hot and serves cishet men. As soon as they step "too far" out of these roles (by being non-binary or men, or being "ugly", fat, or anything that would make them "undesirable"), their masculinity gets punished. Horribly.

It's really infuriating when (trans)radfem trans women try to act like their experiences are universal and whenever someone says something that disagrees with them, they must be lying or "delusional" (yay, ableism! so progressive /s) for thinking that they were, in fact, punished for their masculinity or manhood...

Sorry for unloading this on you, didn't know where else to put it. And thank you so much for listening.

I think a major issue here is that no matter how much we try to reason things out and work through why they act the way they do, radical feminism, trans or cis, ultimately comes down, at some point, to a deliberate decision to prioritize egocentrism and their own desires over seeing other people as real, actual people - not even other transfems, who they just sexualize and try to control, or call a TERF if they can't. And it's hard to reason with that.

Like, they have to know on some level that they hyperinflate trans women in particular being "socially murdered"* to use as social capital and terrorize younger** transfems into isolating themselves. Maybe a very long time ago for some of them it came from the distress they felt from the legitimately immense danger transfems face in a variety of contexts, but they've shot far beyond that now and just don't really care. They've built a cage of unreality around themselves that makes me feel like I'm talking to aliens.

Like the other day, I was talking to one who insisted that the tee-em-ees will not show up for me. Like, I said they did, and she said they won't, and I was like, but they DO! They have! Always! I've seen it with my own eyes, directly for me specifically! But it was just "who hurt you," "let yourself be angry," "don't settle for just scraps," "they won't treat you better if you throw yourself at their feet," "social murder," and it's like WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? ARE YOU HAVING A STROKE? WAS THIS A DREAM YOU HAD?

And what about the deliberately cruel fuckery, the constant derision of the most petty things like forcemasc? What the fuck do they get out of wrongly asserting that women are never punished for masculinity and never have a problem with being viewed as masculine, like why are they doing that, what is their goal? Because it seems like it's literally just "mock and invalidate the sexual interests of others and deem it an inferior copy of our thing."

What do they get out of misgendering cis and trans men for forcefem funsies and telling them to suck it up? They don't really believe that their forcefem joke is the only thing that might make an egg crack. That's extremely obviously a lie. They're doing it because they want to, because it's their kink, because they don't care about the feelings of other people, and they can use transmisogyny as a convenient defense when people ask them to moderate literally any of their behavior for the comfort of everyone else to literally any extent while demanding everyone else shut up and defer to them on every single topic in every single situation.

And this stuff with D20 and Ophiuchus and the transmasc character being treated better? A lie. Just fully making it up. Inventing it. Fabricating it. For attention.

I've never had one acknowledge it when I've tried to explain that I first learned about all of this from transmasc friends bringing it to me so they could defer to my opinion.

They're determined to stay like this. It sucks.

*truly a phrase that makes me livid to even think about now, they reduce it to about the same level of seriousness as forcefem jokes, every single time it's so thoughtlessly hollow and self-obsessed but you could guess that from it being a fair description of every thought they externalize

**let me make this clear, I'm referring to young adults, I am not accusing anyone of being predatory towards minors nor am I saying the motivations are necessarily sexual anyway, although clearly transradfems don't care about the effect their hyperbole will have on the mental health of minors exposed to it and trained from a young age to never trust anyone, so underage transfems are very much a concern here, but not in the sense that they're being directly and personally abused in any way

[fixing-bad-posts]

Heya, I really really hope this doesn't come off as particularly rude, but I was wondering, why would bisexual women be considered lesbians sometimes and I think you also brought up transgender men and genderqueer ppl? For bisexual women, I just am kinda confused, they can be in lesbian relationships and lesbian spaces, but just describing them as lesbians seems kinda confusing because lesbian denotes specifically sapphic attraction at least from where I've always heard it, so wouldn't it be kinda confusing. And for the genderqueer folks or trans folks, wouldn't that just bring their genders closer to feminine and at least from what I've heard from some pple I know, they don't like non binary being seen as more womanly (I've heard it being described as woman-lite before annoying) and instead seen as a more inbetween which it sometimes isn't, because of bigotry and other things since nbs can be both fem or masc or androgynous, but wouldn't non woman lesbians kinda push it to be seen as kinda more fem or that person as more fem? I don't know and frankly I'm just kinda confused. I'm really really sorry that this probably comes off as super rude and I hope you forgive me. I frankly just want to learn a little more and have been reading up but wanted to know what you thought. And I just realized how long this was, so so sorry

hello anon! these days, i usually don’t answer asks like these because i’ve already done so several times, but you seem very well-meaning and confused, so i’ll do my best to help. first of all, please check my faq for resources and links about mspec labels and bi lesbians.

second of all—generally—here is my advice for when you encounter a queer label that confuses you:

1) literally just ignore it until you...

2) meet someone in your life who uses that label, at which point you might (respectfully) ask them what using that label means to them specifically, and why it’s important. i’ve done this in real life. the script is something like,

“it’s really cool to get to talk to someone in real life about this stuff—if i may ask, what does identifying as [insert label] mean to you, personally?”

you might also say,

“i’ve never met someone who identifies with [their label] before. would you mind giving me some pointers on the important things to keep in mind in order to respect your identity/make sure you feel respected by me?”

i’ve also never asked anyone to correct me if i mess up and say something rude, but i’m working on the confidence and charisma to be able to say that, because i owe that to others.

all of that said, i wanted to respond to some of your specific questions, and clarify a couple of things below the cut. to clarify:

1. “describing [bisexual women] as lesbians seems kinda confusing because lesbian denotes specifically sapphic attraction”. to be clear i am not the one describing bisexual women as lesbians, in this hypothetical situation. when i post about bi-lesbians, i am posting in support of people who—for whatever reason—chose that label for themselves. what i am not doing: advocating to redefine the classically understood definition of lesbian for the entire populous.

2. “wouldn’t it be kinda confusing”? yes! i understand it can be confusing, and i commend you for expressing your confusion instead of reacting in disgust or anger. there are so many things in the queer community that are confusing, even to me, and you don’t need to feel guilty for asking questions as long as you come from a place of genuine curiosity. being confused isn’t bad, and defining yourself in a way that confuses others is, likewise, no transgression.

3. “for the genderqueer folks or trans folks, wouldn’t [identifying as a lesbian] just bring their genders closer to feminine […] wouldn’t non woman lesbians […] be seen as kinda more fem”? the answer is: sort of. it depends entirely on how and why the person using this label came to these words. you wrote, “i’ve heard from some pple i know, they don’t like non binary being seen as more womanly”, and i have definitely also heard that! so, for people who feel that way, they probably wouldn’t want a label that evokes womanhood and/or aligns them with femininity assigned to them. but every person is different—so for some nonbinary people, they absolutely do not want to be seen as “woman-lite”, whereas for other nonbinary people, they might want to be seen closer to femme than masc, while still nonbinary. this goes back to what i said at the beginning: best practice is to ask the people in your life how they want you to respect them.

closing thoughts: i hope this clarified some things, but i understand that the topic may still be confusing—feel free to message me if you want a non-judgmental queer to talk things through with. i promise i’ll take you in good faith <3

[eff-plays]

Goddd I keep seeing ppl defend the use of "non-binary" and saying it's unapologetic and doesn't allow for interpretation and how that's good because that means bigots and chuds won't be able to look away and deny anything.

This is going to sound rude, but I think this tells me everything about the people who defend the use of non-binary.

Perhaps they want the explicit use of non-binary because they themselves don't always pick up on naunce or the things said in between the lines. So they think everything has to be explicitly spelt out. Which tbh would explain why they have no issue with the writing in general, as everything is conveniently labelled and over explained.

Either that or they assume that all bigots are dumb? Which is not always the case.

I don't think that saying, "I don't feel like I am a woman or a man either. Sometimes, I feel like I am both, or none, or it changes" can be interpreted as anything else other than that character is non-binary. Just like how people knew what Dorian meant when she said that he preferred the company of men.

They could have also used a lore friendly term and then put the term in the glossary section they included in the menu.

I get what they're trying to say with the whole "make it explicit" argument, but I just don't think it's universally applicable. And I also don't agree with the idea that hitting people over the head with a specific word will somehow deter bigots, or that art should even strive to do that. It's like when people say you should love trans people more than you hate transphobes. If you want to genuinely depict a person from a marginalized group, you should attempt to do so earnestly, rather than doing it to "stick it" to bigots.

And Taash did not give "earnest". It gave "I have something to prove and a chip on my shoulder" which makes their storyline inherently off-putting to me. And it also gave "I'm so so so so white" but that's another issue 💅

[gnc-polls]

i’m wondering if i am gender nonconforming, and i have a question that i haven’t been able to find the answer to from individual research so i want to ask gender nonconforming ppl themselves

so i am under the nonbinary umbrella and afab, but i always present very feminine (like, more than most cis girls)

the definition i’m finding for gnc is essentially someone’s who’s gender expression is different from the societal expectation

in this case i think that would fall under gnc, because the expectation for nonbinary people is to be androgynous, and specifically for afab nonbinary ppl to present more masculine as they transition, however i dress very femininely, in fact more so after i realized i was trans than before

however all of the examples i see for gnc ppl r afabs who dress more masculine or amabs who dress more feminine

i ask bcs while i feel undeniably more myself when dressed very femininely (like, i cannot stand to be otherwise without it taking a decline on my mental health), i do get lots of dysphoria knowing that ppl don’t see me as my gender bcs i don’t act “trans enough”, but being able to take pride in being gnc instead would make that so so much less horrible (like, even just the thought of that potentially being the case feels like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders). but i absolutely do not want to intrude on a space that is not mine, so genuinely asking, would you considering me gender nonconforming ??

The thing is, I will say though, that my blog might've further pushed the belief that you are only GNC if you are either cisgender or binary transgender, and explicitly express yourself in a way that doesnt align with traditional/conservative ideals of your gender identity, but being GNC doesn't have to be that. Another thing is that ok this blog, I usually just post other people's direct poll suggestions, and some submissions may have been exclusive of many (for example, one of the polls submitted here asked "GNC people: are you trans?" and didn't include a binary transgender option.)

GNC is being gender non conforming, aka not conforming to set preconceived notions of gender. A feminine/androgynous AMAB man may use the term GNC. A masculine/androgynous AMAB woman may use the term GNC. but I know some masculine people AMAB may consider themselves GNC, and some feminine people AFAB may consider themselves GNC. They could be binary transgender, or non binary, or something else. But they're still GNC.

In fact, a lot of people might feel like they fit the term GNC, and they don't have to be strictly binary female or male. Some GNC people express gender non conformity I'm the sense that their own concepts and ideas of gender don't fit the binary male or female. I know some non binary people/people with a more complex gender identity that would call themselves GNC on the basis of the fact that they're non binary, and not now they choose to externally express themselves. For example, someone that identifies as xenogender may consider themselves to be GNC, not because of how they express their gender, but just what their gender is itself - though I'm getting a bit off topic // Some people may not call any non binary people GNC due to the fact that being non binary is not as common, so there may not be specific overly popular or traditional norms of what a non binary person "should be". But gender and gender expression are both pretty complex, so I wouldn't gatekeep the term in GNC.

If you feel like the term GNC fits you, and feels right to you, use it to your will. Due to it being a social construct almost entirely, there are not strict rules. For me, personally, I never had to do research on whether I was GNC or not. I just saw the word and the looser definition of it, and accepted it for me, due to personally thinking it fits me. There might be people in this world who might not view me as GNC or "GNC enough", but I wouldn't care too much about them.

A non binary person might be expected to act as androgynously as possible by some people, and so if a nonbinary person expresses themselves in a way that does not align with gender norms or stereotypes set for non binary people, then, ifi were in that position, I would not mind the term GNC for me. This may wary from individual to individual, however.

In short, I don't think there are strict rules to being GNC, because I feel that kinda contradicts what being GNC represents in the first place - not conforming to expectations set by society.

Actually, I'd go as far to say that there are not RULES for being GNC, especially no strict ones. Some people would dare and say that you cannot be a GNC woman/butch if you have long hair, due to the fact that in many cultures, long hair is viewed as feminine - however, what those people fail to realize, is that they may be exclusive of cultures in which long hair is not viewed as feminine. which is important

Another thing - GNC to some people may be a meaningful label, and may bring a huge sense of community and acceptance and confidence, and for some other people it may be just another word that seems to fit them. To me, personally, many words are just that - names for things we experience. For many it can be comforting to know you are GNC. To some, they don't need a name for it. You might. Or you might not.

If you feel like it fits you, then go for it, call yourself GNC - you are not invading or violating anyone, lol. // But those are just my thoughts. Other people might have opinions that differ from mine. // There are many other things I could say, but this is all I have for now. Feel free to ask anything else if you'd like to hear my or anyone else's thoughts!

[blue-thief]

respectfully asking you to drop those trans hcs for the bllk boys!!!

yeah sure ofc i'm so glad you asked!

i'll split them up based on which NEL team they're on for the sake of my own sanity

(i don't actually hc ALL of them to be trans so i'll just mention the ones i actually have a hc for lol)

bastard munchen

kaiser - THE most trans-coded of the bunch imo. like the whole thing with the blue rose tattoo to represent "turning the impossible into reality" and "defying the natural order of things". and his full name is "michael kaiser" which can be interpreted as "god's chosen emperor". there's no way bro was given that name at birth. he's also coded to have religious trauma which would become much more layered if you interpret him as trans. he's also, interestingly enough, the only one to NOT have a metal chain around his neck on his cover. he's the only one with glass. a lot of ppl have interpreted this as him having a fragile ego, but glass can also be taken to symbolize transformation (i just pulled this from a random website talking about the spiritual meaning of glass lmao). ALSO also him being annoyed by his long hair in ness's flashback. trans. plus his insecurity concerning how good he is in comparison to (who he perceives as) cis players just screams insecure trans masc who's relying too much on toxic masculinity to affirm his gender to his peers lmao.

ness - he totally thought he would have to fight his parents on this but they were surprisingly cool with it + even helped him w puberty blockers and stuff. he still hates them for the anti-magic stuff but at least they're not transphobic?

isagi - don't ask me to explain this i just get those vibes

noa - (reporter) "what is your opinion on trans people with an unfair biological advantage in sports?" (noa, a trans man who transitioned wayy before he got famous) "i AM trans people with an unfair biological advantage in sports"

pxg

shidou - he just has bigender vibes man. japanese isn't big on third-person pronouns, but once he starts getting better at english, he'd def start collecting pronouns like pokemon cards. he figured out his identity through chainsaw man ("wow denji's just like me fr but so is angel devil but so is asa but so is-")

ubers

(i have nothing for any of the ubers. feel free to prove me wrong)

fc barcha

bachira - non-binary but he doesn't know it yet (any and all pronouns once he does figure it out)

manshine city

chigiri - peak gender, everyone confuses him for a girl. he uses masculine language, and while he sometimes acts annoyed when ppl call him princess, he doesn't bother correcting them. does anyone actually know chigiri's gender? no. does he know what it is? yes. will he tell anyone? no. he thinks it's funny to keep ppl guessing with the constant contradictions

reo - i didn't actually hc him as trans at first but the post i was complaining about earlier was dunking on this hc specifically so uhhh yeah he's trans now sorry i don't make the rules <3. his dad's company also pioneered top surgery that doesn't leave any scars which is why no one in bllk has any. like with ness, his dad is surprisingly not transphobic but he sucks in other ways lmao (but now that you think of it, his whole struggle with wanting to live a life completely different from what his parents had in mind for him IS a very trans-coded backstory)

[scourgefrontiers]

headcanoning characters as trans is fun in general but what really gets me is when ppl headcanon characters as their specific flavor of trans. characters who are non-op but are socially transitioning. characters who are post-op but not with everything. characters who are gender non-conforming for the identity theyve transitioned to. i love that shit sooooo much like yes yes yes give us more than just binary transmasc/transfemme headcanons who conform to gender norms

[ignylinn]

Veilguard criticisms here

So, first of all, I liked the game - a lot. For me, in many aspects it is better than previous installments. I mean, even DA2 which is my favorite had A LOT of issues and also produced my least favorite DA companion of all time (Isabela, I know many ppl love her, but not me). So it is the best game under certain circumstances, I'd say.

As are all the other games in the series.

Now, to veilguard. In no particular order.

1. The wheel. Not it's existence - I mean, it's been there since almost forever and I made my peace with it.

It's just that the tone does not match the reply. I honestly think they mixed up 1st and 2nd option. Second is much more serious or supportive most times than the first.

2. The Crows. I love Treviso, but the story there? Two major criticisms here: Illario - he just has "evol little traitor" written all over him from the start. I was hoping there would be a twist and, like, Viago would have been behind everything, or something like that.

Also, neutral good mafia clan? Really? Like, these are super assassins for hire we are talking about, not Robin Hood's merry band. And also Jacobus story where he gathers orphans to make them into another assassin clan? And we are yaaay go Jacobus?

3. The way they talk about trans and non binary identities - already wrote about that, but in short using our very recently invented very culture and period specific terms just does not work and breaks the illusion. We have a lot of other examples of how trans/nb identities are included into various cultures, and using our terms is either a weird choice or writers have not done their research. If nb people were called blorbi we would have noticed they were non binary, honestly.

4. The Blight. Half the time we walk knee deep in the blight. Would have been nice to have at least some blightometer, and when it fills you better run to Grey wardens asap. Or in game explanation of why it has zero effect.

5. Show don't tell just a little of what is going on in the South? Just one mission? The way Inquisitor describes it, I want a full DLC on that.

Also, some years ago there was some rumor that the game will take place mostly in Minrathous. I hoped for that game. I was hoping to see the city in all its variety, not one pretty unimportant district:( I don't mind docktown, it's a good location in itself, but why is it the place they chose to show out of everything we could have been shown?

[ryanisasleep]

*SOME* women on this app are so weird. They come into male reader spaces, request female reader from male writes, when politely rejected they get upset? Then female writers insert their works in the male reader tag, when asked to stop, they get rude about it. I seriously don’t understand how/why it’s so bad to want a space SPECIFICALLY for male reader works. Fem!reader predominantly makes up the fanfic space, you don’t need to incorrectly tag your shit just to get a couple of more likes from people who probably won’t even like or read? 🤦‍♂️ anyways rant over thank u for actually having the balls to speak out against these types of ppl

No problem my friend, as a non binary (potentially trans person) it makes my guts twist at the hypocricy and sadness this people have. They are the epitome of "we don't know what we want but if we can't have it then you can't too" kind of behavior....

Even the tags like BUDDY IT DOES NOT TAKE A GENIOUS TO USE SOME NEURONS TO MAKE COHERENT THOUGHTS!!!

[possibilistfanfiction]

Genuine question, how did you figure out or realize the whole being butch thing? What does being butch mean to you?

idk if it was like… figure out? more so just putting a name to something i’ve always felt or known about myself. i came out as a lesbian, then i came out as nb, then i was like well i want gender affirming care so that must mean i am Trans™️, & it’s like… none of those words or kind of… vibes (lol sorry) quite fit? i don’t feel like a cis lesbian, & i actually kind of despise non-binary as a concept (don’t send asks abt this i won’t answer them lol, do ur own thing if u love it that’s cool); i think for me personally Transness is a little too serious & intense & limiting to how i feel. & im a white afab person in a smaller body, & honestly…….. we are often the wooooorst demographic of trans ppl lmao so i just didn’t even rly like some spaces i was in. i got the most important gender affirming care i wanted, i moved & i got married, i got to work remotely etc

& so just sitting with all of that it was like. ok well a lot of neoliberal queer spaces piss me the fuck off; i’m not cis, but i’m not TRANS in the way a lot of ppl (very validly) feel; i do Not like nb. i’d read stone butch blues before, i have a degree in critical theory where i worked a loooot w queer theory, obviously i’ve written abt queerness for ages lol. so then i was just like ah. butch. dyke. YAH! sweet. 100/10 feels amazing i love it

& i think for me i love those words most bc they’re rooted in really radical belief that i have. they carry an ethic with them that, at its best & most intersectional ofc, i want to act on, all the time. i want to show up for people & be protective & tough & strong but i also so deeply want to be nurturing & nourishing. i want to allow myself to be nourished & cared for. i think it feels rly wonderful to have a word for transgressive gender that sums it all up bc people lived it before me. they made that very specific & particular space to experience femininity in a way that doesn’t feel like a noose.

i think also butchness is so expansive! something that never sat right w me abt the way we talk abt transness in the west is that i don’t think there are ‘pre’ & ‘post’ transition selves. like… i’ve never been Not Me? like i came out of the womb a dyke. all i did my entire childhood is run around in the mountains, catalogue leaves, play w my dog, read nancy drew, & avidly watch + play any women’s soccer i could. i loved to fish & mountain bike, i grew up in the desert so gardening to me was a miracle. i never cared abt gender at all beyond like ‘well i guess i’m a girl & the women i admire just won a world cup, they’re badass’ & that was it. i liked boys clothes bc they were practical & felt better, but i just. didn’t think about it. ppl called me a tomboy which was fine, i liked scout in to kill a mockingbird so whatever. but i never felt “non-binary” & i certainly never felt like a boy.

& i am… still just like that lmao. i hated my boobs, point blank day 1 lol, but that doesn’t have to mean i’m trans, or that i’ve somehow changed in a way that requires separation from who i’ve been my whole life. i HATE the language of ‘dead/lived’ name; i hate the weird expectation that u should allow the state to have all of ur gender stuff on record (no fucking thank you, y’all can keep my legal name & i will be flying under the radar lol). so i think western transness rly just. irritates me. doesn’t fit. hasn’t ever fit.

so butchness is like. i am 8 year old jude, i’m just older now. if this makes sense ur butch lmao but. it’s this rly free space to play w masculinity in a way that doesn’t necessitate western transness, & also doesn’t necessitate a separation from maternalism, which i fundamentally believe in. i don’t even rly think of my own care as “gender affirming” & more just like… essence affirming. i didn’t want top surgery so my body could be read as male; i wanted it so i could look like me. i want my clothes to feel & fit in a Very particular way bc that’s how i like them. it’s abt practicality, efficiency, comfort.

& lastly to me butchness has a remarkable space for tenderness that masculinity on its own just cannot hold. like. it’s abt being protective & strong, sure, but it’s in service of others. always always always. so sometimes that looks like communicating calmly, sometimes that looks like infinite small acts of service for ur friends or ur partner. when i think of settling into myself it’s more about returning to who i knew i was when i was a kid, when i was the only person my dog liked & how it felt to sit on the swings when the sun was setting after the monsoon; it’s allowing myself to love like that — caring, & quiet, & full.

ultimately to me butchness is about devotion, more than anything in the world. devoted to safety, devoted to community. no one is devoted the way dykes are bc it’s how we survive. it’s how we have always survived — the steadfastness, the faith, the joy, even thru suffering, to not be boxed in. to help each other. to be funny & kind & thoughtful & not reject the absolute best parts of womanhood for the sake of a western box. to demand care. it’s so beautiful. devotion.

tldr it’s the best

[deeply-unserious-fellow]

I need to ramble about gender for a sec but I dont want to subject all my friends to my horrible nonsense rn and also I don't think any of them are online so instead I'm just gonna subject randos on Tumblr to it. Bcuz appearently this is my life.

Okay, so like. I identify as non-binary, right? I don't bring it up a whole lot bcuz it's just never relevant outside of my weirdly specific Vox headcannons, but I do. The thing is though, I think the way my gender behaves is more in line with genderfluid then non-binary? Like, I don't identify with the term genderfluid because A; I never actually give a shit which pronouns people use on me as long as they mix it up sometimes, so the fluid aspect doesn't actually effect how I interact with other ppl all that much, B; non-binary is a lot easier for me to describe and C; I just feel a lot more comfortable with that label Idk, but like. If I were to go to the gender doctor and ask for a diagnosis they would say I'm genderfluid. I would just rather identify as non-binary, if that makes any sense-

OKAY LONG-WINDED EXPLANATIONS ASIDE- the actual problem I'm having isn't related to labels at all, but IS something I assume a lot of genderfluid people have? That being that when I feel femme(my agab) I start questioning my entire identity and hating myself because I'm "not trans enough"(which for the record I know that's a stupid thing to think), but when I feel masc I start hating my body and everything about myself and also wanting to die. Also I still feel like I'm not trans enough because I feel femme sometimes. Then stack that on top of my already really terrible depersonalization issues that make it feel like my body and voice aren't mine no matter WHAT gender I am- just. Man I'm having a time. I'm having a bad gender time and a bad brain time and I don't know what to do. Y'all got any advice?

[craecm]

i feel as though a part of my identity which tends to be separate from my queer companions is my relationship to masculinity or my general gender identity as a whole.

i totally get the niche of gender, especially and most prominently in trans individuals (and even more so within the non binary community), which leads us to define our gender in specific ways.

you hear so much about how trans ppl define their identities in simplistic ways for cis ppl, but can go in depth abt the specifics of their relationship with gender when talking to other trans individuals.

to a degree i get this, but my identity has ALWAYS surrounded masculinity and manhood. there are specifics of how i view this manhood- through dogs and pain and dark forests and abandoned knocked down buildings but it’s still very much binary.

i hate being called they/them as much as i hate being called she/her because my gender identity is very much binary, and i don’t feel as though one part of me except my physical form encapsulates that in between space. i just have a more complex history and relationship with my living manhood as a cis man would. if that makes any sense.